Open Adoption... What Is That?

   One of the things that we have been learning about is open adoption.  Traditionally people have done closed adoptions where birth parents and adoptive parents don't know each other and there is no contact between them.  Open adoption is now becoming more the norm for many reasons.  What that means is that we would possibly (more than likely) meet the birth mom before the child is born but more importantly we would have continued contact with her (or the birth family) through the child's life.  At first this seemed scary and intimidating and almost like a co-parenting situation.  The picture I had in my head was that of divorce where one parent keeps the kids most of the time but the other has visiting rights and might keep the child as often as every weekend.  I was happy to learn that this is not what open adoption is at all!  It's looks more like extended family.  The birth mom may be (hopefully will be) someone special in the child's life, kind of like a grandparent or great aunt.  However she has no parental rights and has no parental decision-making authority.  Sure she can voice her opinion but ultimately it is our decision.  We, with the birth mom, will decide how the child will refer to her.  Most of the time the birth mom will choose her first name.  There are so many different ways that it can play out.  For instance, just being able to have contact with the birth family as far as medical background goes can be a huge deal if something were to come up later in the child's life.   
   The first time most people hear about open adoption they are taken back.  I haven't always been in the spot I am now with it but I feel excited about the possibility of an open adoption.  Not only are will we be changing a child's life but they will definitely be changing ours.  On top of that, we will have the opportunity to bless and minister to the birth mom and/or birth family.  The potential is there for God to really work and use Kyle and I in that situation.  That excites me!!
   Let me know what you're thinking about it or if you have any questions.  I'm not promising we can answer them because we may have the same questions but at least we can ask it together.

My first blog!

   I've told many of you of my desire to blog through our adoption journey.  This is something Kyle and I have talked of doing because so many of you are lifting us up in prayer.  You have no idea what your prayers have meant to us through our infertility struggle.  There have been many times when our peace or joy or just being able to live life has only come from the hand of God. 

   My plan (and those of you that know me very well, know that I always have a plan, haha) so my plan is to share with you this journey of adoption.  I want to share things I learn and my feelings about what's going on.  Not to mention keep you updated on our progress.  And from time to time Kyle may even write a blog or two, wouldn't that be nice?  There are so many things already that I want to share with you, but for now that's all I have time for.