Some of you may know our story because you've been by our side throughout. And for that you'll never know how much that has meant to us. Some of you aren't quite sure or you've heard pieces of it. What made us infertile? How many infertility treatments did we do? Had we ever thought about adoption before? I hope to answer many of these questions. I hope to encourage others who may be going through something like this. If that's you, please reach out to us. We want to pray with you and encourage you in any way we can. Now to the story, at least part 1:
It all started when two people fell in love... hahaha. No but seriously, when Kyle and I got married (1/3/04) we had gotten counsel from some wise people and they suggested we wait a little while to have kids. Get to know each other and learn about ministry and how we will minister together. We felt that was very wise and so Kyle and I decided to wait three years before trying to have kids.
In the mean time we loved on kids in the ministry. That three years went by pretty quickly. We both finished up our bachelors degrees and moved to Missouri to start our first full time ministry together. Adoption did come up a couple of times after certain ministries that the church supported came to visit. The talk was mostly, "yeah, that's something that would be cool after we have our own."
Even though that time went fast, I was ready to start trying by the time three years was up. So March 2007 was the magic month. A few months go by with nothing and doubts creep in. I start researching how long it takes the average couple to get pregnant: 6 months. Okay, we were still in that time frame. Six months comes and goes, ugh! In the mean time I'm researching more and more and come across a website and book. The title of the book is Taking Charge of Your Fertility by Toni Weschler. The website is www.tcoyf.com. This is a natural way to do birth control but also suppose to help you get pregnant faster. Well, I guess I don't really know how much detail to go into here... but the basics are that I needed to take my temperature every morning to know exactly when the best time of the month to 'try' would be. This all started around December of 2007. It takes the average couple 3 months to get pregnant while temping. I was definitely uplifted by this fact.
It did not take me long to learn that my cycle was not what it should be to carry a baby. My temperatures showed that I had low progesterone. I immediately started researching natural ways to fix that. I tried several different things. All promising. All disappointing. I know way too much about a woman's cycle for not being a doctor! Seriously, it's ridiculous! By this time I had started having physical symptoms of stress. Ok, they were probably more like panic attacks. These symptoms mostly only came at the end of the month when I was waiting to see if I was pregnant. Was I going to have my period or not!?! I was short of breath often. My stomach/diagram felt like a rock. I clinched my jaw til I got headaches. It was serious stuff. I felt awful, yet didn't know how to stop it. Stress isn't good for making babies either! Geesh! This brings us to August 2009.
....to be continued.
